My boyfriend and I have been together for over 1year. He is older than me 4 years, and he is pre-dental school student. He is very kind, hard worker and funny. Usually, he wanted me to look mature, so he always insisted me on to respect him. However, I don’t agree on him even he is older than me. The reason is that his behavior is not mature enough when I saw him. For example, when we decided to go out side for dinner together, he never decided where we will go out or what we choose the menu. Actually, I wanted to meet someone who has a leadership to lead on me before I decide. But, he is totally out of my wish. Also, although I decided where and what we are going to do, he started to complain about my decision. I don’t understand why he is doing right that even he couldn’t decide it. At first time, I thought that his behavior is by his personality, but now, it is not. Recently, I am considered to a pattern which I met someone especially men. It is almost same. Most of the time when I met someone as a men, they wanted me to decide everything such as where we can go or what we can eat. When they asked me to decide, I had a hard time. Because I didn’t want to do it, I wanted him to do it for me. However, I never said that “No, you have to decide it “to them. One day, I was very annoying this happen repeatly; I asked my boyfriend why you never decide something. His answer was kind of shock to me. He said that he wanted to care about me and respect my decision. Also, he was loved to do what I want with him. To tell the truth, I though that he is not able to have enough “determination”,and his capacity about social skill is limited. However, his thought is pretty different. His behavior from the past to right now is focus on me. After that, I realized that we have totoally different point of view about taking care of each other. Finally, I started to read “Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus”.
In this Book , the author Dr.John Gray is telling us several things. Gray explains how these differences can come between the sexes and prohibit mutually fulfilling loving relationships. Gray shows how men and women react differently in conversation and how their relationships are affected by male intimacy cycles ("get close", "back off"), and female self-esteem fluctuations ("I'm okay", "I'm not okay"). He encourages readers to accept the other gender's particular way of expressing love, and helps men and women learn how to fulfill each other's emotional needs.
Actually, I think that I had not show my own opinion. When I had a chance to decide something, I always though what kind of decision made him comfortably, first ,even I was not consider what I think about that by myself. As I read, I have same problem what he mentioned in the book. Women use different words with men even it has same spelling. When men asked men about something, I answered “I’m okay” or “I’m fine”. However, it is not really find and okay. I wished him to ask me again ,again and then start conversation. Men just understood I was really fine. Women wanted him to know their mind without saying anything. I think that women like “surprise” include me. On the other hand, if I cannot say anything about my mind, anyone can know what I think. It is weird!!
I think that Men and Women are totally different species. It is impossible to totally understand each other, that process make people tired. However, the reason of why people keep wanting to have relationship with men and women is "happiness". When the God made a man and woman, he wanted them to spend happy time together. The reason why the God made diffrent speicies as man and woman don't know, but it probably that it looks great. People can have happiness through loving and talking each other with different gender. Also they can find the reason why they have to live with man and women though control their emotion each other. I,also, will figure it out, too.
In this Book , the author Dr.John Gray is telling us several things. Gray explains how these differences can come between the sexes and prohibit mutually fulfilling loving relationships. Gray shows how men and women react differently in conversation and how their relationships are affected by male intimacy cycles ("get close", "back off"), and female self-esteem fluctuations ("I'm okay", "I'm not okay"). He encourages readers to accept the other gender's particular way of expressing love, and helps men and women learn how to fulfill each other's emotional needs.
Actually, I think that I had not show my own opinion. When I had a chance to decide something, I always though what kind of decision made him comfortably, first ,even I was not consider what I think about that by myself. As I read, I have same problem what he mentioned in the book. Women use different words with men even it has same spelling. When men asked men about something, I answered “I’m okay” or “I’m fine”. However, it is not really find and okay. I wished him to ask me again ,again and then start conversation. Men just understood I was really fine. Women wanted him to know their mind without saying anything. I think that women like “surprise” include me. On the other hand, if I cannot say anything about my mind, anyone can know what I think. It is weird!!
I think that Men and Women are totally different species. It is impossible to totally understand each other, that process make people tired. However, the reason of why people keep wanting to have relationship with men and women is "happiness". When the God made a man and woman, he wanted them to spend happy time together. The reason why the God made diffrent speicies as man and woman don't know, but it probably that it looks great. People can have happiness through loving and talking each other with different gender. Also they can find the reason why they have to live with man and women though control their emotion each other. I,also, will figure it out, too.
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